The Power Of Asking & Ashley’s Winter Concert
By admin on Jan 1, 2009 in Uncategorized
Last week at my 11 yr old daughter Ashley’s Winter
concert, I witnessed something so shockingly profound, that it had to
be shared with you right now.
Imagine this scenario, as it could happen to any one of us…
I’m sitting near the end of the row, with my wife and 2 other friends.
The end seat is empty.
To my right, are people standing.
The place is packed.
People are squeezing into any available space.
But the end seat next to me remains vacant.
Moms are holding their babies.
Dads are standing against the wall.
Grandparents are sitting in the aisles.
Yet the end seat next to me still remains vacant.
Dozens of people walk past me, clearly seeing the single empty seat.
Yet no one stops to ASK me if it’s available.
I comment to my wife, who’s to the left of me.
I tell her…
“There’s 40 people standing in the aisle next to me on my
right, but not one person has ASKED if they could sit there
or if the seat was even available”.
I went so far as to remove my coat from the chair, giving
further evidence that the seat was available.
Still, not ONE soul stepped forward.
The MC for the evening, instructed everyone to “make room”
for those standing in the aisles and the outer hallways.
Still, not ONE soul inched forward to ASK me about the seat.
So there I am, beyond amused.
Chuckling to myself.
Waiting for someone to be BOLD enough to ASK a stranger
(ME) if the seat next to me was available.
FINALLY
An older gal tapped me on the shoulder, ASKING if anyone
was sitting there.
I politely replied back saying that the seat was hers, just for ASKING.
She got a seat because she was BRAVE enough to ASK.
People who had been standing there before her for 30+ minutes
looked at each other.
As if to say… “Why didn’t you ask that guy for that seat”?
Interesting isn’t.
How most people will NOT ask.
For fear of being
Can you GUESS?
REJECTED.
yep, REJECTED.
Even for something as simple as a free seat for an 8th grade
Christmas concert.
They fear being told something like…
“I’m sorry, but the seat is being reserved”
Here’s their instant thought process…
OMG
Now I look like an idiot because a stranger told me NO.
I’d better duck back into the shadows of the walls so no
one stares at me.
Ever think like that?
I have.
The same scenario happens at movie theaters too.
Too many people are AFRAID to ask someone else “hey, are
those two seats on the end taken”?
It’s amazing.
What can be accomplished & acquired simply by ASKING.
Such as…
Want to go out with someone, ASK.
Want to borrow money, ASK.
Want to go somewhere, ASK.
Want to change your food order, ASK.
Want to get better seats, ASK.
Want a reduced price, ASK.
Want to be compensated for the mechanics error, ASK.
Want to get married to your sweety, ASK.
Want a prospect to buy from you, ASK.
WAIT!
Say that again…
Want a prospect to buy from you, ASK.
Yep, that’s right.
I went there!
Are YOU afraid to ASK people to send you MONEY?
Are YOU afraid to ask people to join your business?
Are YOU afraid to ask why they’re not interested?
Are YOU afraid to follow-up with a 2nd phone call?
Are YOU afraid to ask for help, for fear of looking stupid?
If you’re afraid to ASK, then you’ll remain BROKE.
Askers make the MOST money in ANY program.
Askers are NOT afraid to ask for the sale.
Askers are NOT afraid to find out WHY a prospect is hesitating.
In short…
Askers are Leaders.
They make things happen for themselves.
They don’t wait around, for others to make a move.
They make the moves others are too shy to make.
Like the older lady who asked for the seat next to me.
She’s an ASKER.
She could give a hoot what my response was.
All she cared about was getting a seat.
Yes or no, she still ASKED.
What about YOU?
What are YOU afraid to ASK for?
Take it from someone who was once themselves AFRAID to ASK!
(yep, ME!)
It’s not a fun feeling to see something or someone that you
want disappear right in front of your eyes.
Because you allowed fear and hesitation to slither in to create a PAUSE.
Long enough for someone else to come in for the steal.
Guaranteed someone was standing in the aisle last night,
secretly pondering the move to ASK me for the seat next to me.
And then was blind sided by the woman who swooped in for the victory.
Happens all the time, in all sorts of places, events and situations.
But don’t let it happen to YOU.
Get yourself out there and start ASKING for what you want.
You’ll be pleasantly surprised to see that the Universe is
partial to people who know what they want and are willing
to ASK for it.
It’s like Moses parting the Red Sea.
It’s like people move and mold around your desires.
Because they see that you had the spine and confidence to
ASK for that which you desire.
Simple, but stunningly effective.
The Power of Asking.
It can make your dreams start to come true.
Make it a GREAT day and Happy New Year!!
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